Why Not Ask Your Network For Job Search Help They Can Actually Give?

Apr 19 2011 in Featured, Networking/Social Networking, reCareered Blog by Phil Rosenberg

Call me crazy – Why not ask your network for help they can actually give? It makes sense, right?

But do you know the #1 reason most of you are unsuccessful in getting your network to give you real job search help?

… because you ask your network the wrong question. Instead, most of you put your contacts on the spot, by asking for help they aren’t able to give you.

Most candidates I talk to go right for the jugular – immediately asking your contacts if they have a job for you, or if they know someone who has a job for you, or if they know someone who knows someone who has a job for you.

… guess what the answer is 99% of the time? (Did you guess the answer was “NO”?)

Not only do you paint yourself as a desperate job seeker, but you’re asking a question that gives your network a very low chance of being able to help you – because you’re asking the wrong question.

You’ll seldom hear your contact tell you no, because nobody wants to deny a request from a desperate job seeker they know. You probably don’t hear no, but you rarely get actual help either.

Why not ask your network a question that gives them a greater chance of saying the word you long to hear? (Hint: that word is our favorite word in the English language – YES!!!)

That’s what JobJenny writes about in this excellent article. JobJenny (AKA Jennifer Foss, recruiter exrordinaire) is the author of “To Whom it May Concern: Or, How to Stop Sucking at Your Job Search” (Great title, don’t you think?).

“So anyways. I’ve been thinking a lot about networking lately. To the point where this completely overused, but very true quote keeps rattling around over and over and over in my brain. That quote (so you can enjoy it in your brain as well)?

You think networking is hard? How hard is NOT working?

OK. I can rest now that I handed that one over to you.

Now let’s talk for a second about networking.

Specifically, let’s talk about one of the common blunders job seekers make when they set out to network with people that fall on the outside of their closest circles. That blunder goes something like this (assume Bill is an operational leader with a local corporation):

‘Hi Bill, We haven’t spoken in a while. I hope you’re doing well. It’s been a pretty tough year on my end. The company I was at declared bankruptcy and our entire team was laid off last September without notice. I was hoping you might have an operations job in mind for me at your company or know someone who does. Here’s my resume. Please let me know if you know of anything, OK? Thanks, Jerry’

Why is this less than ideal? Because it puts Bill on the spot.

It may make him uncomfortable and, if he has nothing in mind for you at that moment? He has to come back with a “no.” And most of the time, your peeps don’t want to come back to you with a “no.”

A much, much better approach goes a little something like this:

‘Hi Bill, It’s been a while since we chatted. I hope you’re doing well (Hey, how’d that marathon go? I remember you were training for the Chicago Marathon last we talked). I’m sending you a quick note with a request for some information. You are truly the guru on all things Operations, so you were the first person to come to mind. The company I was most recently with folded and we all lost our jobs last September (yes, huge bummer).

As you know, I’ve been working as an operations manager for the past handful of years, and I love it. My question for you is this – Do you belong to any specific professional associations that you find particularly beneficial as an operations leader? I’d really like to leverage these groups as part of my search, and I’d love your recommendation on the best places to start. Thanks Bill! I look forward to your input. Jerry’

Notice how Jerry didn’t attach the resume with that second note, nor did he ask Bill for a specific job or job lead. YES, Jerry may well do that as this conversation unfolds, but in version two? He does not come right out of the gates asking Bill to help him find a job.

People want to help you. They love being called upon as experts, and will typically go out of their way to give advice and input.

But no one loves feeling cornered.

So build a little rapport first. Ask for some easy-to-provide information or advice, compliment them on something they’ve done professionally, do a little front-end “catching up” and test the waters BEFORE you ask them for a j-o-b.

Your connections are vital to your job search. You absolutely must approach them with a strategy.”

Original article by JobJenny at: http://www.jobjenny.com/the-blog/2011/4/19/dont-put-your-network-on-the-spot-heres-a-much-better-way.html

Here’s a similar approach I like – Why not ask for a recommendation for a great recruiter? If Bill doesn’t know any great recruiters, that can be even better … giving you a great opportunity to pay it forward.

Why not respond … “You’re in luck Bill, because I’m doing research to find the best operations recruiters out there. Eventually, you’ll need to know who they are, either to hire staff or for your own career. Would it be helpful if I call you back with the results of my research and give you the list of the top operations recruiters in your industry?”

Is it likely that your contact would say (or even think) no to that question? Anyone who says no that that offer must not like you very much – that contact wouldn’t help you even if you offered them the moon.

Candidates: Do you have any ways to ask your network for help, while not putting people on the spot? What’s been successful for you?


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